I'm Stephanie. A Mom, therapist, and someone who gets it because I've lived it.
I'm Stephanie Arrington, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) in Jersey City, NJ, licensed to practice in New Jersey, New York, and Florida. I've been practicing for over 16 years, and I opened Heights Psychotherapy in January 2023 after years of working virtually during the pandemic. I wanted a real office, in a neighborhood I actually live in and love, where clients could sit across from me and connect in person.
My Approach to Therapy
My approach is psychodynamic and attachment-based, which is a clinical way of saying I'm interested in where your patterns come from, not just how to manage them today.
Early in my career, I worked in the New York City court system supporting victims of crime and domestic violence. That work, along with my time in the community mental health space, showed me something I've never forgotten: when families don't get support early, the consequences ripple outward — through relationships, through generations, through children who grow up carrying things they were never meant to carry alone. Early intervention doesn't just help. It changes trajectories.
Then I became a mom myself, and I understood all of it differently. I take a systems approach: I look at the whole picture, not just the problem in front of me. Supporting you is often the most powerful thing I can do for your whole family.
Why I Do This Work
I don't just study postpartum anxiety — I've lived it. That experience shapes how I show up with clients: direct, but never clinical or judgmental. I want you to feel welcomed, seen, and understood, and I also want to challenge you when it counts. In my experience, that combination of real warmth alongside real honesty is what actually makes change stick.
What I Believe
You were never broken. Therapy isn't about fixing you. It's about understanding yourself more deeply and from that understanding, everything else starts to shift.
The oxygen mask thing is real. You cannot pour from an empty cup, and you cannot show up for your kids, your partner, or anyone else if you're running on fumes. Taking care of yourself isn't selfish. It's necessary.
Good enough is genuinely enough. There is no perfect mom. There never was. The pressure to be everything for everyone is one of the most damaging myths of modern motherhood, and unpacking where that pressure comes from is often some of the most important work we do together.
Asking for help takes courage. I know this firsthand. And I also know it's one of the most powerful things you can do for yourself and for the people you love.
Not Sure Where to Start?
That's what the free consultation is for. We'll talk through what's going on and figure out together what kind of support makes the most sense - for you, your relationship, or your family.
You don't have to be in crisis to reach out. You don't have to have the right words. You just have to be ready to take one small step.
Start with a free 15-minute consultation. No pressure, no commitment — just a conversation to see if we're a good fit to work together.
More About Stephanie…
Training & Education
Over 16-years of clinical experience
Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) in New Jersey, New York, and Florida
Perinatal Mental Health Certified by Postpartum Support International (PMH-C)
Advanced training in child and adolescent therapy, trauma, anxiety, and interpersonal therapy (IPT)
ICEEFT Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy Externship (EFT)
Supportive Parenting for Anxious Childhood Emotions Certification (in progress)
Leadership experience in nonprofit, community mental health, start-up, and corporate healthcare settings
